Things I Want to Talk About

Lately it seems I have a running list of things I want to talk about. Maybe I’ll start a new feature like, Talk to Me Tuesday or something but these are the things I want to talk about today.

1. Earlier today a friend and I were talking about parenting {surprise, surprise!} and we started talking about how our generation of parents totally overthinks and overdoes it. Think about it. How many parenting books have you read in the last month? year? since your child was conceived? Now think about how many parenting books your parents likely read?

My thoughts: I think we are too worried about messing up that we focus so much energy in how to be parents instead of just being parents.

It seems there is so much information literally at our fingertips that we digest and digest and digest. Is there such a thing as too much information when it comes to parenting?

2. Can we please talk about this blog post?

The Playdate Minefield {link}

“I Google the heck out of the parents before I ever let my kids go over to their house. There’s a lot you can find out about a person online, and I generally can learn how long their parents have lived in their home, what they do for a living, which friends of mine are their friends on Facebook, and plenty of other relevant information before my kids pay their kids a visit.” – excerpt

Must. Talk. About. This.

How do you handle playdates with people you don’t know? Your kid goes to school and is talking about hanging out with someone you don’t know, you don’t know the parents, how do you handle it? In the past with T and M {and a couple times now with H}, I’ve either offered to host their child here OR I’ve tagged along and gotten a good feel before leaving.

Recently T was invited to sleep over at a friend’s house that we’d never met. Considering T is in 8th grade we know most of his friends and their parents but this friend was new to his school so first thing I asked T was where he’d gone to school before. His friend had gone to the private Catholic school in town prior to the middle school and I know that I’m going to get flack for this but that was a good sign to me. {I know, I know!} I brought T that night to sleep over and stayed and chatted with the parents for a few minutes and basically told T in the car, “if these people seem nuts, I’m going to leave and call in 20 minutes and come back and get you saying we had an emergency or something.” {T will never let me live down my psycho-stepmother moments.}

The advantage with T is that he’s 14, so old enough to know what is and isn’t ok by our standards and he has the ability and resources to get himself out of a situation by calling/texting us.

I’ve never gone the google route though. I’ll honestly say the one thing that is hardest for me is the gun thing. And I have no idea how to handle it because yes, in theory asking parents if they have a gun and ensuring it’s locked up is a great idea but who does that?

So talk to me, do you google potential “playdates” ahead of time or how do you determine if your kid goes or not?

And does this go back to #1 about overthinking parenting. Do you remember your parents having these quandaries about playdates? {I don’t think the term playdate existed when I grew up…}

3. Today is Ash Wednesday and thus starting the 40 days until Easter. I shared a Eugene Cho article on Facebook today that I thought was really good. I didn’t grow up giving things up for Lent and it’s still not a part of my faith practice but I know many who do. {While I’m making these confessions I should also admit I eat meat on Fridays.}  I love that he poses the question are you doing it to grow your faith or are you doing it out of ritual?

Umm I didn’t ask you to give up coffee, I asked you to surrender your life. – God. {link}

Anything that produces rituals, expressions, practices, and the like – without ultimately inviting us to a deeper understanding and worship of the Living God…lends itself to empty religion. {excerpt}

Do you give anything up for Lent?

4. Top 10 Reasons our Kids Leave the Church {link}

I really wanted to like this article and agree with it but these are the Top 3 reasons I think kids who grow up in the church leave it: 1. Christian arrogance 2. Judging/Shaming from those in the church 3. Fake-y/non-genuine people.

What do you think? Did you grow up in the Church and leave? Why? OR Why not?

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Let’s talk!  Any of these topics strike a chord with you? All of them? Talk to me…

 

Comments

  1. As you know, I don’t have children yet, but when this topic came up on another blog a while back, I couldn’t help but respond. So many parents responded that if they don’t know the other family, they just keep the playdates at their own house…. but hello? You are the stranger to that kids’ parents! I don’t think our parents had so many concerns because the media didn’t instill as much fear back then.

    Also, about why people leave the church… yes, yes, and yes! :)

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