On Parent Shaming.

About two weeks ago now, between swimming lessons and hockey, I decided to try to get our Target run out of the way with my kids. I had made a list, meal planned. Was actually feeling pretty on top of things as we zoomed through the store up this aisle and that aisle.

I looked at the time and realized that we were going to cut it close to get H to hockey with enough time to get his equipment on if we didn’t step it up a notch so I told my kids that they could pick out a Lunchable {In the moment I felt this was my parenting downfall of the day, getting my kids lunchables versus a healthy lunch. Little did I know.}

Once we got to the check out, I ripped the backs off the Lunchables so I could pay and sent the three of them {ages 10, 7 and 3} to the cafe area to eat their lunch while I checked out.

This was a good solution to me for two reasons:

1. They were out of the way while I was trying to check out. There is nothing worse than kids in the check out aisle.
2. They would get their lunch eaten while I checked out, meaning we’d be able to get to hockey on time.

I was apart from my kids between 5-7 minutes. The entire time we were separated, I was putting my items on the belt and/or paying. I didn’t go anywhere else.
My kids sat in the cafe, the two little girls at one table and H at another. At one point H came to tell me that he was finished but the girls were diddle-daddling, I sent him back with instructions to tell them to get a move on and he did.

Once I paid, I pushed my cart towards the cafe to grab the kids. A woman, maybe around the age of 40, was standing nearby and appeared to be waiting for someone. As I got closer, she said “Are these your daughters?” and pointed at the girls.

Yes, I answered thinking she would launch into something funny/cute/ridiculous the two had done.

“You should really think more and make better choices before leaving your cute little girls alone.”

She started and I felt my cheeks turn red and told her that their brother was watching them and then I pointed at him.

She continued.
She continued to question my parenting.
She continued to berate me.
She continued to tear me down IN FRONT of my children using words like “better parenting choices” and “lucky to not be a headline.”

I was so caught off guard all I could think to say was “Thank you for your concern!” and I scooped up Miss F and her half eaten lunchable and walked out the door.

Of course my kids had a hey-day with this.
Miss F asking me why I was a naughty mom {Definitely not words this woman used but she obviously picked up on this woman’s sentiment.}
Miss E let me know that while I was checking out this woman approached her and asked where I was and she told her I was checking out. According to my SEVEN year old, this woman told her that she should be with me and not alone in the cafe.
And H witnessed this woman call a manager over and stand talking to the manager while pointing at the girls.

This was within 5-7 minutes.

I’m just flabbergasted.

I mean, I appreciate the concern. I do. To know another mom is looking out for my kids, that’s awesome.

But the shaming that went along with it?
To publicly humiliate me?

There are so many responses I’ve thought of since this happened but none make it any better.

This woman thought I was a terrible mother and felt it was important for me to know how terrible I was right then and right there.

Has this ever happened to you? How did you respond? Also, what would it take for you to approach another parent to criticize their parenting?

Seussical the Musical Ticket Giveaway

Last night my little girls and I went to the SOAR Arts Production of Seussical.

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We loved the colorful stage, the nonstop rhyming and the conglomeration of Seuss stories that the crew did on stage.

The cast included local participants ages 7-70 which really makes it feel like a community theater.

Our favorite characters were: The Cat in the Hat, Horton the Elephant, Amazing Maizie and of course, all the Who’s in Whoville.

The singing, the dancing and the energy on stage was so fun to see and feel and you could also see the joy of all of those participating.

There is ONE more weekend left to see Seussical the Musical at St. Michael-Albertville High School. There are shows Thursday and Friday July 28-29 at 7:30 p.m, July 30 at 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m. and the final show is Sunday July 31 at 2 p.m.

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It’s a great opportunity to take your kids to an affordable live theater production in the Twin Cities.

Tickets are available online and are $10 for kids and $12 for adults. You can also buy tickets at the door for $2 more a ticket.

See the video trailer of the performance right here:

https://www.facebook.com/SOARRegionalArts/videos/1129611833763316/

Bring a few extra dollars to grab a snack during the 15 minute intermission. Everything is just $1.

What is SOAR Arts:

SOAR Arts is St. Michael, Otsego, Albertville and Rogers communities. It’s a nonprofit organization dedicated to enriching, educating and entertaining the communities.

SOAR Arts was started by a group of local parents who wanted a community theater option available within the community. They have found ways to make the productions affordable for kids and families to participate while also finding high quality instructors and directors to teach the kids acting, singing and choreography. Being a part of a SOAR production is much more than just putting on a show, it’s an entire lesson in productions and musical theater.

SOAR Arts has given me two tickets to next weekend’s Suessical to give away to one local reader.

You can enter the Rafflecopter giveaway right here:

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Winner will be chosen and announced Wednesday July 27!

 

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Guest Post: The Food Experiment

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Title Nine Fit Fest Could Change Your Life

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Seven Things to Do on Rainy Days in the Twin Cities

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Twin Cities Road Trippin’ to Zimmerman

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There are so many cute little towns to explore in and around the Twin Cities that I’ve decided to start a new series of adventures, Twin Cities Road Trippin’. I’d love to hear from you about your favorite little towns, what there is to do and eat and see. And is it fun for kids? […]

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