On Race, the Deafening Silence and #Ferguson.

All the world needs is another blog post on #Ferguson. I know. I know. But I am finding the silence deafening.

What silence? You ask. Because surely your social media feeds are just as full as mine of articles and links and graphics on one side or the other of this issue.

To me, this isn’t a side versus side issue. This is a people issue. This is a heart issue.

If one more person posts something about the judicial system doing their job or if one more person posts something about the media or if one more person posts something about “standing with Officer Wilson…”

This is what I ask dear friends.

Ask yourself how would this situation look different if the youth that had been shot had been white and the officer black? Please don’t tell me the outcome would have been the same last night. Especially if you’re white, please don’t.

In 2000 I was in a communications course taught by Professor Cho at North Park University. Oh Professor Cho, he was such a thorn in my side. But that’s another story for another day. We talked a lot. A LOT about race. I am not even sure why now because it was a lit and comm class, but we spun circles round the subject of race. Me, the middle class white girl from Minnesota had a lot to say about race. Mostly that I didn’t view race as a deal. I grew up in a multicultural community, had friends that were other races and nationalities. I just didn’t “get” it. Oh friends I was so wrong. I had lived such a sheltered, privileged life.

Here is the deal, I don’t have to worry about my taller than me 15 year old step son walking down the street. I don’t have to worry that anyone is categorizing or judging or assuming his actions as he walks down that street. I don’t have to worry if he wears his hoody on his head or if he has rap music blaring from his ear buds {both things he does from time to time.} And why don’t I have to worry? Because he is white.

I don’t have to spend a moment worrying that anyone will have any preconceived notions about my blonde haired blue eyed babes. They are assumed to be “good”.

This Ferguson thing isn’t about pro-police or anti-police or not holding youth accountable for their actions. This Ferguson thing is about race. I am not interested in discussing why Officer Wilson was defending himself and how his actions were right just as much as I’m not interested in talking about why Michael Brown did not deserve to be shot. The details of this case are not mine to sort out. But yet, it affects my heart.

My heart breaks for Officer Darren Wilson and his family. I have much respect for those who serve us in law enforcement.

My heart breaks for the family of Michael Brown.

And my heart breaks for all those living in the Ferguson community. The violent protests, riots and looting do nothing to help this situation. I pray and I mourn and I hope for peace.

This is not a side versus side issue. This is a people issue. This is a heart issue. And if you are a white person trying to tell me that racism isn’t an issue here, I’m sorry but YOU are a part of the problem.

Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles Giveaway

The Digital HD version of Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles comes out TODAY! To celebrate, Paramount Pictures would like to send one of my readers a TMNT gift pack including everything pictured here:


 Be on the lookout for the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles Pizza Van, which will be distributing FREE pizza and also collecting new, unwrapped toys for local Boys & Girls Clubs.  Grab a slice and customize it with wacky, Turtle-inspired toppings and have a chance to score a Turtle eye mask and other fun prizes!  The 10-city tour celebrates the home entertainment debut of the blockbuster film.

An ideal holiday gift for the whole family, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles is available on Digital HD November 25th, and arrives on Blu-ray, Blu-ray 3D and DVD December 16th.

TurtlesPizzaVan tour schedule:      

Tuesday, November 25—Miami

Friday, November 28—Atlanta

Sunday, December 3—Nashville

Friday, December 5—Chicago

Saturday, December 7—Indianapolis

Monday, December 9—Cincinnati

Wednesday, December 10—Cleveland

Friday, December 12—Philadelphia

Sunday, December 14—Boston

Tuesday, December 16—New York City


This giveaway is simple, just leave a comment on this post to enter. A winner will be chosen by random.org on Monday, December 1.

Disclosure: This is not a sponsored post but I did receive an in kind gift from Paramount Pictures in exchange for posting and hosting this giveaway.

Christmas Experience Gifts


I am all about experience gifts for Christmas. I just, as I’ve said a few dozen times before, don’t think kids need a lot of toys and hate the idea of buying something that gets tossed aside a week after Christmas and never played with again. That’s why we really try to focus on opportunities […]

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My Third Stitch Fix.

My third Stitch Fix arrived Friday afternoon and I was really excited. I waited to open the box until I knew I’d have time to try on every piece and had high hopes after such successful fixes this past summer. You guys, I was bummed. This is my least favorite fix. Here’s what I got: […]

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Dr. Seuss’ How The Grinch Stole Christmas at the Children’s Theatre


Miss E and I had the pleasure of going to opening night of the Grinch on Friday night at the Children’s Theatre. I’ve seen this show a couple of times at the same theatre but will never tire of the story, the colorful costumes and characters and the songs. It’s catchy and funny and heartwarming […]

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Three Holiday Style Tips for Busy Moms-

It’s the holidays which means family pictures and family functions and work parties and all sorts of stuff you need just the right outfit for. Don’t want to run out to the Gap or spend boatloads at Ann Taylor Loft? Me either. I used to LOVE shopping. Then I had a kid, or three, and […]

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Giving with World Vision this Holiday Season


We all have those people in our lives who need and want nothing this Christmas. Yet, you want to do something, give something and you want it to mean something. Enter World Vision’s gift catalog. With over 250 gifts available from World Vision this Christmas there is truly something for everyone. Prices start at just […]

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Christmas Cards Deals & Steals {Christmas 2014} UPDATED 11/28

I’m asked a lot about when the best time to buy Holiday cards is and the answer I give all the time is that the best time to buy cards is when you are ready to spend a chunk of time looking at the options out there, what works best for your photo and the […]

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Remembering Where My Hope Lies.


The kids had a snow day today and J had a scheduled day off so our day looked a lot different than we pictured it but we did it. We juggled kids and so much snow. I tried to manage a couple of conference calls and J tried to get on top of some emails […]

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Lately Photo Dump.

Fall has been a busy and full season but it has been so good. I am feeling as though I am in the “sweet spot”. I’m not overwhelmed by projects but have enough to keep busy, the kids schedules aren’t insanely packed with activities but just the few things they love and want to do […]

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